Embracing Change: From Summer's End to College Dorms - A Parent's Journey

So, July is over! How did it fly by so quickly?

I have to admit; I've never been a fan of the end of July. As a kid, it meant saying goodbye to summer, suntans, and the freedom from set schedules as I prepared to go back to school. But this year, it carries a whole new significance as it marks the countdown to a major milestone: my daughter moving to her college dorm on August 23rd. It's hard to believe this moment has come so fast. Where did the time go?

I find myself grappling with mixed emotions as I anticipate sending my baby off to college. On the one hand, I'm excited for her to embark on this new chapter in her life, but on the other hand, I can't help feeling a bit anxious and emotional about it all. My son has recently graduated from college and is enjoying his new job, turning to us for advice occasionally, and that's heartwarming. I hope my daughter will do the same, but right now, I'm struggling with various fears, and I must confess that I'm seeking comfort in indulging in some ice cream.

In an attempt to navigate through these emotions, I've put myself in a "Pause" mode. I'm trying to be an observer of my life, taking the time to be gentle with myself. It's crucial for me to be there for my daughter, who is understandably experiencing a rollercoaster of emotions herself. I remember how I felt at her age, full of anticipation and fears, and I'm trying to step back and allow her to process everything on her own. But it's undoubtedly a challenging process for me.

Four years ago, I used to rely on alcohol, particularly wine, to cope with nerves and stress. However, this time around, I've made a conscious decision to face these changes with a clear mind and be fully present. I'm learning to embrace the discomfort that comes with change, knowing that it's part of life's journey, and it will all work out in the end. I'm no longer using substances as a crutch to deal with anxiety; instead, I'm leaning into my faith.

Prayer has become my refuge during this period of transition. I'm turning to God and trusting that He will lead the way. Even when I can't see a clear path, I have faith that He will make a way through the uncertainties, just as He has done in the past. I find solace in knowing that I'm not alone in this journey, and that gives me strength and reassurance.

So, as the days lead up to my daughter's big move, I'm trying to stay present, cherish the moments we have together, and believe that everything will be okay—for me, for my husband, for our kids. This new chapter may bring challenges, but I'm facing them with hope and faith.

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