5 Mindest mentalities
You can do anything you use to do drinking Alcohol Free - Like going to a concert!
Last Friday night, we went to the Walker Hayes Concert! We are still doing the things we love to do AF!
Don’t believe the lie that you can’t have fun without alcohol! Be a Sober Rebel! Going against the grain!
It’s all about your mindset! If you believe you cannot do it, You can’t! If you believe you can have fun or at least you have curiosity to see what it will be like your experience will be different! It’s your mindset / mentality.
I love talking about mindset, so this month’s blog is all about it! So, let’s jump in! A positive mindset or a forward-thinking mindset is a powerful asset when you want to achieve something! It could be a goal, a dream, or habit change. In the last three years, I have worked hard on creating new mindsets or mentalities. One of the reasons I was drinking was because I was caught up in negative thinking.
I am a positive person, and I try to put a positive spin on most things. But internally, I struggled with negative self-talk. That internal voice kept me in a state of negative thinking. I kept the mask on and did what I have always done: smile and say, "I'm fine."
I stayed stuck in the story of "woe is me." Other people can do it, but I couldn't do it. I'm not good enough or smart enough. I don't have time. I'm too old. I always had these excuses, and they left me sad, mad, and put me into a victim mentality. These excuses really boiled down to two things: I didn't think I was someone who could change, and I didn't think I was worthy. I hated this negative thought cycle, and to turn it off, I drank wine and craft beer. And it worked temporarily in the moment.
When you take a break from alcohol, you then have to do the hard work of examining your life. It can be hard, painful, and messy. But there is also happiness, sunshine, and a lightness that fills your soul again!
Here are some ideas to help move you into a positive, forward-thinking mindset:
Ownership mentality: You are in charge of your life. You get to choose if you are going to be a reactor or a responder to your life. You have to take responsibility and ownership of your thoughts and feelings. If you do this, you will see a change!
Aliveness mentality: You have to ask yourself, "Who do you wish to become?" and "Are my habits supporting this?" In addition to these questions, you have to know what your purpose is. Are you living in alignment with what you want for your life? When you start moving forward with passion with your interests and activities, you start creating this alignment. When you have purpose, you start to experience happiness and joy.
Faith over Fear mentality: You have to ask, "What if it all works out?" You have to trust that God has a plan and it is always for your good. You need to plan, prepare, and show up and know you aren't going to be perfect. You need to give yourself and others grace, compassion, and an attitude of "let's see what happens next."
Excellent Experimenter mentality: Get curious and view life as an ongoing experiment! Care about the outcomes and how these outcomes make you feel! You have to be fully engaged and willing to go through the process. Be willing to strive to improve when the outcomes are not what you wanted, but don't beat yourself up! Sometimes, you are not in control! You have to be willing to learn when things don't turn out the way you want them to. Collect data and strive to do better.
Encourager mentality: Be the encourager! Cheering and encouraging others not only lifts up the other person but it lifts you up! You will become much happier in this life when you lead from loving and lifting others up. When you lift others up, you create a positive influence for others to share as well. (These ideas are based on Brendon Burchard’s ideas.😁)
I hope you can put these mentalities to work for you in your life! Have a great month and go out and be the love to others!